A friend of mine once confided how a previous partner insisted they traipse along to joint therapy to resolve ‘issues’ together.
Given our similar backgrounds, she shares my opinion on this kind of thing, but agreed to go along regardless.
Whilst the relationship did indeed dissolve, she did comment that she appreciated one insight the therapist introduced.
It was that people subconsciously focus on one of two feelings; Freedom & Connection.
The trick, it appears, is to ensure that both are happy having, and allowing, just the right amount of whichever they seek.
So, if you desire freedom and your partner demands that you permanently offer connection, there seems little hope.
I was reminded of my friend’s tale when coming across this recent piece of English tabloidness. Opposites do attract;
“It’s not how close you feel that matters most, it’s whether you are as close as you want to be, even if that’s really not close at all.”
I naturally wondered whether prospect or client relationships were similar.
Some buyers command constant attention. Others the slightest of distraction.
Some require singled out service, others merely gentle updates or alerts.
If you knew which they preferred, you’d be home and dry.
How to find out mind you, well, that’s the tricky bit.
Asking from the outset might be a worthwhile idea…